May this year be kinder to me than the last.
Not so much resolutions for the year, but resolutions for moving forward:
- Take care of my health – physical, mental and emotional. Stop putting off the search for a therapist. Stop eating so much damn ice cream. Do something about the self-esteem issues. Do something about the extra weight I’m carrying – literally and figuratively.
- Be open to possibilities.
- Put myself first.
- Don’t help those who won’t help themselves.
- Get a divorce. Get the damned parenting plan signed by the Former Mr so I can file for a divorce and cut my legal and marital ties to him.
- Further to the first point…take charge of my health. Be honest with the shrink, instead of telling him what he wants to hear. Question him when he prescribes pills.
- Nurture my current friendships and make new ones. Do something about the friendships that are just too draining (ahem…Critter).
- Be more patient with The Mook and with myself.
- Be on time.
- Find a job that fulfils all my needs – allows for life/work balance, pays the bills, challenges me and makes good use of the skills I have to offer.
- Don’t settle.
This weekend, my aim is to get at least five bags of stuff out of my home: too-small clothes, books, “stuff” I own that I don’t use. I want my life to be lighter. And, dammit, I want to stop having to pick up and put away the same damn things over and over again.
This is an awesome list! Good luck with finding a good therapist. That can be kind of tricky. I tend to gravitate toward older therapists, because I think experience is usually important. I also ask doctors and stuff for referrals because sometimes they can direct you to someone good. It is tricky, though. I’m about to start therapist shopping again myself. Right now I’m seeing someone with lots of experience, but whose personality clashes with mine. This is a wonderful list and you are a wonderful person. Do you mind if I steal some of your resolutions? I hope this year is kinder to you too. Much love, Susan
Sounds like a house cleaning, literally and figuratively. Good luck. Try to look at the list a little at a time so it doesn’t seem overwhelming. Progress toward any of those resolutions is huge. Best for 2010.
I agree with the others. This is a great list.
Let me chime in particularly regarding your last point:
YES. DON’T SETTLE!
Once again, you inspire me. I’m going to have to write a post on this (the idea of not settling). But suffice it to say, for now:
When you don’t settle, when you don’t accept second rate into your life, you save room in your life for what you do want. For first rate. And you deserve a first rate life.
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Yeah, these are good ones. I applaud you for hitting the hard stuff and stepping up to the plate. May you know more peace in this new year.
And thanks for staying in touch, esp when I fall off the radar (blog) screen. I appreciate it.